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What Is American Sex? 

This award-winning podcast is dedicated to changing America’s dysfunctional relationship with sex. Our sex lives are influenced by everything that makes us US--from our mental health to our relationships, politics, identity, and the shame our culture instills in us and relies on for control. Understanding how these things seep into our bedrooms makes all the kinky, pervy, weird stuff we’re secretly into seem not so weird after all. 

Hosts, Sunny Megatron & Ken Melvoin-Berg, are acclaimed Sex & BDSM Educators. They also co-created the groundbreaking Showtime Original Series, Sex with Sunny Megatron. Equal parts hilarious and informative, Sunny, Ken & their guests serve up real-talk about kink, polyamory, sexual ethics, and LGBTQIA+ subjects. From practical BDSM & sex tips to discussions about systematic repression of pleasure & sexual empowerment, each topic is approached with a lightheartedness that’s second to none. 

We believe Kink is Cutomizable, education is the new punk rock, the personal is political, tinkle-your-pants laughter is an anecdote to sexual shame, and that collectively we can subvert this backward-ass system by finding power in our pleasure.  

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About the Hosts

Superheroes of sex ed, Ken Melvoin-Berg & Sunny Megatron are partners in every sense of the word. In addition to co-producing Showtime’s “Sex with Sunny Megatron,” they initially gained recognition writing and teaching about everyone’s favorite subject, SEX. In their sell-out workshops, their unique brand of “edutainment” plus combined 30+ years of sexuality teaching experience puts students at ease. 

They host the AASECT Award winning American Sex Podcast and Sunny’s first book, Customizable Kink: A Strategic Guide to Erotic Play will be released in 2022. A Certified Sex Educator and Relationship Coach, Sunny was also awarded XBIZ 2021 Sexpert of the Year. On a more personal note, this dynamic duo are married, parents, ethically non-monogamous, and lifestyle BDSM enthusiasts.

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We also hold a giveaway every month for American Sex fans. Be sure to tune in or check Sunny's website for the current monthly giveaway. 




Jun 6, 2022

Many of us go through periods in our lives when we’re not happy with the amount of sex we do or don't want. In Ep 190 of American Sex Podcast, Cyndi Darnell gives tips for changing our relationship to pleasure and navigating intimacy when one partner is perpetually ‘not in the mood.’ Some of the things we touch on:

  • Mismatched Libido 
  • Responsive vs spontaneous desire
  • Arousal vs libido vs desire vs attraction
  • How gender & orientation factor in
  • Reasons people have desire changes & discrepancy
  • Common myths about desire & arousal that keep us stuck
  • How to talk to partners & work together to find common ground

Sunny also makes an exciting announcement about the new, kink-focused digital publication, Zipper Magazine!

Cyndi Darnell Bio

Cyndi Darnell (she/her) is a clinical and somatic sexologist and author of Sex When You Don’t Feel Like It The Truth About Mismatched Libido & Rediscovering Desire (Rowman & Littlefield). Originally from Australia, she’s now based in New York City where she runs a global consulting practice to clients worldwide. A psychotherapist by training, Cyndi currently supports individuals, couples and polycules navigating relationships and sexual difficulties, plus professional mentorship and case consultations to clinicians and sexologists worldwide seeking to deepen their understanding of the links between psychotherapy, sexology, relationships work and somatic practice. She's a Clinical Associate of Pink Therapy UK & Board Affiliate for University of Wisconsin STOUT Sex Therapy Certification program.

Her podcast The Erotic Philosopher brings guests of diverse backgrounds together to explore issues affecting modern sex and relationships. Her numerous academic works are published in Journal of Sexual & Relationship Therapy and Journal of Sex Education among others. Her expert opinion is frequently sought by media outlets worldwide.

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